“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” (Lao-tse)
I think it was Einstein that defined insanity as ‘continuing the same behaviour and expecting a different result’. Let’s face it, if your loved one continues drinking or using, his/her life is only going to continue to get the same results.
The same goes for you. If YOU keep on reacting to their behaviour and continue to blame them for your resulting life, than your life is not going to get any better either.
It takes two to tango, and you are participating in this duo, which isn’t improving your life.
I was surprised to hear in rehab counselling that I was as sick as my husband, my mental illness was feeding off my reactions to his actions. I had been severely affected by alcohol without being the drunk. You too need to look at your own recovery and stop spending time reacting to your addict’s life decisions and wishing your life was different.
Taking responsibility for the choices you make is an empowering energy. Decide today that your life is your own. Make the decision to take steps everyday to a better life. The step may be so small that no one but you will notice but make the conscious decision that you are going to do at least one little thing everyday to improve your life and your future.
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