Confronting the alcoholic in your life

For a short period I went through a stage of thinking of myself as a victim that these things were happening to me. It was only when I got a grip of myself and admitted that things don’t just happen to me – they were a result of me not taking action or continuing to repeat the same reactions that didn’t work. This was my comfort zone and it took a hell of a push for me to step out of it, in hindsight I shouldn’t have let it get to that stage.

Avoiding confrontation, keeping the peace or not approaching the issues when the person is sober incase you send them on a binge is not dealing with the situation. It is important to confront the situation, this takes courage, intelligence and planning. There is no point in opening a discussion about how you feel when someone has drink taken, you do have to find the perfect moment and when it arises you need to be ready. You need to be clear with your feelings and get them across quickly and calmly. You have to state the facts. It may take a few times to get the message through but by getting your message across, you are taking back control of your life and taking a decisive step forward.

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  1. Thank you for posting all this information. I am hoping it will help me out. My husband stopped drinking this past April with a little help from medication. He went away last weekend for his sisters 70th birthday party and yes he broke down a drank. Not wine, his usual poisen…but beer.

    I have tried over and over to talk him into going to AA meetings but his big fat ego gets in the way.

    I myself have been sober for 8 and 1/2 years now. I have no desire to drink ever again.

    I’m very lonely and sad and just don’t know what to do.

    He is anger with me because this time I confided in his best friend who lives up north…he has not told me so..but I can sense it.

    Thanks for listening and I really enjoyed your blog.

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